I am sure that you have already found this about two hundred times in all the other profiles. First Date: I don’t think it matters what we do on a first date, and I am a big fan of simplicity, so a coffee and walk would be just fine.” This is just one example of a profile that will stand out as different and arguable better than most other pages written by guys on the online dating sites.
First of all, for people whose profiles have an average rating, both men and women have an under-50 percent response rate — meaning most of us are not usually getting messages from the actual people we’re trying to reach.
Secondly, instead of hearing from the people we’re pursuing or the charming suitors in jealous male users’ fantasies, we’re often stuck dealing with some pretty crazy messages. The clearly copied-and-pasted message often comes from people who are low matches with me and are clearly not vetting their targets carefully.
So once and for all, here are the 23 types of messages most straight women (or gay women being trolled) have to deal with on Ok Cupid. They’d might as well write “I didn’t read your profile” or “I’m casting a super wide net that you just happen to be caught in.”This approach is especially obvious when they accidentally paste the message twice.
If someone wants to know about my job or field of study, I'd rather they just ask me.
I frequently hear men express envy over what they imagine women’s Ok Cupid inboxes look like.
In their imagination, we are bombarded with eloquent, respectful gentlemen who ask incisive questions to get to know us and make us feel good about ourselves.(If you are a woman who's been on Ok Cupid, obviously, you just scoffed.)It’s time to clear things up.
I’ve developed the habit of automatically hitting “block” when I identify a troll — though some have amused themselves and the rest of us by trolling back.
You don’t have to come up with a poetic essay or shocking attention-grabber.
Or even better, Wikipedia it and ask me an informed question.