Better yet: "Many second date ideas can be born from this question." If you want the conversation to become a bit reflective, thoughtful, and meaningful, this is a great fall-back.
"Not only do you get to hear about her life story, but the snippet that's most meaningful and important to her," Jones explains.
Plus, you won't be blind-sided if you make a movie date and you're stuck sitting through a rom-com.
Everyone loves to laugh, and talking about the things that make you both fall into a fit—cheesy pickup lines, dad jokes, a particular You Tube flick—gets the conversation flowing... Lots of laughter on a first date is a great sign, Jones says.
This conversation starter can bring a light, playful, untethered feeling into your mix of questions, Jones says.
"It's also fascinating to hear anyone's answer," she adds.
If she'd watch every television series ever created, and you're an active guy who can't stand to be indoors, well, that shows you might not be super compatible.
Ask what sports she's interested in, what teams she roots for, and if she played sports in college.
Depending on her answer, you can see whether you're up for some healthy competition or standing behind the same teams. You'll also find out how much time she spends on the couch.
This question rocks whether you're new to a city or you've lived there for years.
"You get to talk about local places she likes, see what you have in common, bond over the people, culture, and why you moved to the area in the first place," Jones says.
It's also the perfect way to gauge whether her level of passion is compatible with yours, Jones says. Each of these explanations reveals something about her character.
"This is a great query because a dream job merges meaning, passion, and lifestyle," Jones explains. If things get a bit awkward or serious, divert to a more carefree topic.
"You get a glimpse into her day, her job responsibilities, how she deals with stress, her energy level, tone, and how she spends her time," Jones says. Some say you never truly know someone until you travel with them.