I remember reading a story at a survivors blog in which a single woman reported that she was expected to babysit, without compensation, the children of the pastors.In fact, it was reported that the church set up "date nights" for the leaders in the church and had single members standing by to babysit.There are no equivalents for never-married past the age of 35. The singles ministry had its events and Bible studies during the week.
The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit.
But she who is married cares about the things of the world – how she may please her husband.
Tons of sermons are aimed at parents and married people.
There are social functions by churches and ministries that do nothing but meet the needs of married people with kids. Every single time I was told that the nursery or children’s ministry was desperately in need of volunteers and that it was crucial for singles to fill those positions so that the parents could attend services.
This woman said that there was expectation of compliance because single members had "a lot of free time" and should "serve" the leaders in that way. Hug and Daisy said : I’m a Christian who grew up in a church and Christian culture that assumes everyone gets (or will get) married by 25 and have a kid.
If you do not fit that life story (married with kid by age 25 – 35), it does not register.
35 And this I say for your own profit, not that I may put a leash on you, but for what is proper, and that you may serve the Lord without distraction.
How does the church treat single people as second class citizens?
So to view a single person as somehow not able to pastor or be a leader is one that is truly non-biblical.